How often do we take the time to consider what force is guiding us? I don’t mean the big G or the physics of the universe. I simply mean what is driving us to go after a certain goal? How are our values adapted and developed as we continue to mature into new stages of our lives? What is it that helps us navigate the crazy part of our lives, the sad moments and the challenging days? What brings us back to earth, away from the insanity and into the calm…
It’s interesting because in the midst of these questions I’m posing, I don’t think I could have fully answered them a month ago. Who knows what I would have attributed it to. I don’t think I would have been completely sure what guides me other than a commitment to personal success that allows me to inspire and motivate others. Or during an incredibly tough period, what exactly it is that can minimize that pain and make me feel like someone wrapped me in a plush, white blanket of calm (besides maybe some great vino). I probably would have just said it was a combination of things and support systems.
And then I went home to Dallas. For only about 48 hours I was in the city that I was raised, and the stars aligned in such a way that I was able to see some of the absolute dearest people in my life: parents, siblings, nephews, best friends, and my co writer (yes, it was a busy 48 hours).
It was in a 3AM moment on a warm rooftop in Dallas giggling, problem solving, and sharing confused tears with my two life-long best girlfriends who happened to be in the same city for the same night….or while I laughed until I wanted to cry as my Mom belted out “How will I know” from the Glee soundtrack while my dad cursed the lack of parking spots and my brother and his girlfriend Vine’d the entire situation…or while sipping sangria under the sun as my sister recounted how happy she was that I surprised her for her 30th birthday… and amidst a family chicken fight that had us all bent over with laughter in the bottom of our bellies… that I couldn’t have understood the answer to those questions more clearly.
Those moments brought clarity to my own personal North Star: the unconditional, pure love and support of my family and best friends. They keep me sane despite my hectic travel, overly committed career, dating woes, lack of sleep and pressures that have enveloped this decade. They know the goodness at the base of my soul and refuse to let me forget my own potential. And for that I’m forever humbled and grateful.
Our North Stars will all twinkle just a bit differently. For some, family brings nothing but stress while religion gives great joy when all is whirling about them. But whatever form that twinkle comes in…follow it, remember it, and make time for it in order to keep driving towards holistic, worthwhile success.
Reprise* I’m currently in Europe with the world’s best parents here to visit me. So rather than take time away from them (this power couple gets up before me and go to bed after me), I’m reposting a few of my favorite blogs about the importance of our special people like the ones here to visit me…reflections of our grounding, soul-rendering, heart calming individuals in life.